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The Mummy Bedtime

19 March, 2014

What is that song called by Bon Jovi, Live while I am alive, sleep when I am dead?

Well that has been me with regards to sleeping the last 3 years.

Once my bedtime was 10pm at the very latest. Mr MMM is like 9.30pm, wham bam thank you mam. The only time he stays up past this is if we are out or to watch a movie on a weekend.

Notice when describing my bedtime, I said ONCE?

Rewind me back to the 3rd week of Lil D’s life. When things started to go a little skew if. It was most definitely the beginning of what we now know as our bloody nightmare. Or as you may now know as Lil D’s infant reflux. Prior to this 3rd week I was sleeping ok, we would feed 3-4 hourly overnight and I was ok with that.

As Lil D’s reflux and pain become more intense, Mr MMM and I took it in turns to sleep upright with our son on our chests, just so he wasn’t in pain and screaming. The one thing I discovered about myself (which I sort of knew), was that I am a really bad person to wake up and get going. It takes me time and having this screaming baby to tend to in the middle of the night, made me feel like I had just stumbled in tipsy from the pub for the first 10 minutes.

I would have whole conversations with Mr MMM during this time of sleep drunkardness and I could not tell you for the life of me what they were about the next day. And here I was caring for my precious son? Yikes.

So I learnt to just not sleep. I felt safer. I would stay up until at least 11.30 pm each night so that I was ready for the worst of the scream sessions of the night. After that was done, I would allow myself naps on and off until morning.

As the years passed, I would get all the kids off to bed at 8pm and then make the most of these quiet hours to just do whatever the hell I pleased. I would blog, read, watch a movie, Facebook, Pinterest… yaddee yaddee yadahhh. I knew it wasn’t good for me as the following morning was rough, but still Lil D would be a nightmare around 11pm, so I had a great excuse for what had grown to be my favourite hours of the day.

I was always exhausted but I was loving life on autopilot. I had to. It was either that or cave to depression and hello, I had these 4 hours every night that was like my cocaine. Bliss .. even if the baby ended up hanging off my boobs at the end of it.

11.30 to Midnight become my bedtime. I was hooked. Addicted. Lights being off and all technology away at 10pm but no sleep fairy would arrive with her sleepy dust. So I would toss and turn until I would grab my phone and lose myself in Pinterest or reading blogs.

That would leave me 5 hours to sleep before I would have to hit the ground running out the door to work, by 6.45am.

Yeah, so that wasn’t working. In fact, things were getting a little manic at times and my anxiety was absolutely shite.

Now, I ask you today about your bedtime because I have just recently through meditation, exercise and good eating managed to wind my bed time back to 10pm. I no longer have that screaming baby at 11pm, and even though I can think of a million things I would prefer to be doing than sleeping, I know my body needs it to function. (yes pain in the arse … has someone invented the Mummy Powerpoint yet?)

It is hard to strike a balance isn’t it? Getting all you can out of life, being satisfied as a person, being a great Mum and getting enough sleep.

So out with it…what time is lights out for you?

Are you a night owl, so you can savour some you time? Or are you snoring and drooling all over your Tontine by 9.30pm?

Cause that whole Sleep When Your Dead lyric, is just a little bit mad albeit a GREAT IDEA.

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  • Sherrianne19 March, 2014 at 9:26 pm

    I try to get to bed by 11:00 but often that’s a joke. I work from home so the only time I can focus on work is after 8:30 when the kids are in bed. I am usually up by 4:30 or 5:00 but I have an early riser so I don’t always get alot done before he hits the ground at 120km per hour. So yeah, I’m bad but if I get 6 hours I feel great so I can’t be too bad.

    • Mrs MMM20 March, 2014 at 5:45 pm

      I find 6 hours is great too Sherrianne, but 7 is even better. I am very much hearing you on being able to focus once the kids are in bed. I can work while they are up and about but it is interrupted and somewhat unfocussed.

  • Lisa19 March, 2014 at 9:42 pm

    I totally understand where you are coming from with this! My bedtime is between 11:30pm and 12:30am. I must admit, I really savour the quiet time from 9:30-10:30 when I can watch some tv, scroll through FB etc. However, I too stay up purposely past 11pm to get past the waking of one or both of my children. Autism is unfortunately not a great friend of sleep and when my son was younger, he would wake constantly unto this time or have night terrors/meltdowns. He is now a lot better at sleeping but still wakes around midnight before.coming into my bed. My youngest although has no diagnosis, usually wakes crying around the 11pm mark. My theory has always been less sleep is better than disturbed or broken sleep. Both my boys wake between 5:30-6 am so I average only 5 and a half hours sleep a night. I know that 10:30 would be a better time for me to go to bed but I also need the peace and quiet as life with my 2 gorgeous boys can be so exhausting.

    • Mrs MMM20 March, 2014 at 5:49 pm

      You do need some peace and quiet Lisa .. it is such a tough balance. You are very right that less sleep is better than broken sleep. I just cannot do the up and down myself and would rather just stay up and walk the floors with the non sleepers if need. Big hugs for you .. I cannot imagine how hard it must be for you having a child with Autism and managing to feel like you get a break by doing the stuff that makes you happy.

  • Amelia20 March, 2014 at 7:18 pm

    This is happening to me too. I think my body thinks it’s normal to have so little sleep now! In to bed I get & lie there for hours sometimes before sleep finally takes me then have to drag myself out of bed kicking & screaming in the morning

    • Mrs MMM23 March, 2014 at 12:09 pm

      I can highly recommend meditation Amelia. Even if it isn’t at bed time but at some point during the day. I hope you get a better sleep patter back soon!

  • Amber22 March, 2014 at 8:56 pm

    Ahhhh sleep…whats that again??…last few years in this household have been interesting. tired but cant sleep. When i have time to sleep…not tired:/…house full of early risers and im not a morning person:) plus babies that dont sleep longer than a few hours at a time….which wouldnt be so bad if they woke, fed and slept again without much fuss. Its the hour or so of crying in between stints that gets us. Hubby and i usually take weekends in turn to catchup on sleep. One such weekend i may have slept for 16 hours straight:)

    • Mrs MMM23 March, 2014 at 12:10 pm

      Wow 16 hours!! That is a top effort. If only we could bank sleep as parents. I would of banked so much in my pre-kids years to survive the current ones 🙂

      • Amber23 March, 2014 at 1:45 pm

        Hahaha. Yes!!! Sleep bank would be gold!

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